Sunday, November 25, 2012

Feeling Frustrated...

As many of you know, we are getting set-up through LDS Family Services to adopt again.  I feel as though we really need to be doing this, but I keep hitting road-block after road-block.  First off, I filled out all of the preliminary paperwork and got my bishops referral letter and mailed them in.  I waited the 2 weeks they said to wait and then when I heard nothing I called them.  They had no idea where my paperwork was.  So, two weeks wasted there.  Luckily I had kept copies of everything, so this time I hand delivered them to the office in an obnoxiously large envelope with our names written in huge letters.  This time they got processed and we got to meet with our case worker.  

Our case worker is a very nice girl, but I find it hard to believe she's been doing this for all of the years she claims.  Every question I've asked her she hasn't known the answer to.  She is good to find out and get back to me, but I feel like my questions aren't that hard.

So, I've been crazy busy filling out form after form on the computer.  The website is confusing at best.  I feel like they only give you half of the information in one area, then you have to search somewhere else to find the rest.  

I went to turn in my paperwork for our background checks and didn't know if I needed to include a check.  I had called my case worker and  she said she would talk to the adoption secretary and get back to me.  She said that I could drop them off on Wednesday and the secretary would be there all day.  I went to the office at 4:30 and the secretary had left for the day and nobody had gotten back to me on if I had to pay or not.  The lady at the desk didn't know, but said she would call me if I needed to bring a check in.  She also said they needed a signature on the bottom, but she would just forge it.  These papers are very time sensitive and have to be submitted by the agency 1 week from the date I dated them.  I told her that if they needed more time they could just change the date.  She said, "Oh, no!  We can't legally do that!"  Ok, so it's ok to forge a signature but not change a date???

On Saturday my referral people got the letters they need to fill out in the mail.  My brother called me to inform me that they are made out for 'Stuart and Chelsie Brower'.  Seriously?!?  So... I called my case worker, she said it's not a big deal, she would just change it after they are mailed back in.

Then today I am trying to register for the stupid 9 hours of online training that are required and when I try to purchase the classes they are $100 more expensive than what is posted on their website!  Needless to say, I'm frustrated.  I would really love to find a baby privately and not have to go through all of this crap.  I feel as though nobody knows what they are doing.  I don't mean to sound negative, I just needed to vent.  Thanks for listening :)

Thank goodness for this cute little bug!


1 comment:

Helen said...

I'm sorry it's so frustrating! I'm praying for you guys. I hope you can get a baby through a private adoption soon.